What a strange world we live in today! When I observe people around me, especially married couples, I realise how the dynamics of a couple’s relationship have changed. I particularly find that the meaning of the word “fidelity” means very different things for different people. In fact, it seems to be the most unfashionable term! And I am sorry to say that social media and various chat apps like Facebook and WhatsApp have encouraged philanderers and given them a wide field to play in.
It is so easy to pretend you are talking to a friend or a colleague, while in reality the person concerned is having a gala online affair, fooling his or her spouse. Another syndrome, which I will name the “bored wife” syndrome, is a particular set of women, who have been married for quite some years and have become bored with their husbands. These women take incessant photographs of themselves, often scantily clad and then troll the online world in search of some kind of sexual excitement. To them, flirting and then having sex chats with somebody else's husband means nothing wrong. And they always manage to find a man, who cries, “my wife does not understand me” and then engage in all kinds of lewd acts with this man, never sparing a thought to their respective spouses. Like I always say, women need to respect their own sex first before screaming “women’s Lib”. I think that these people genuinely believe they are doing nothing wrong by cheating on their partners with their online lovers. They exchange nude or semi-nude photos and if feasible, meet their lovers and take it one step ahead.
Working couples do not find the time to be with each other, but can spend hours chatting with virtual strangers online and that is what they prefer to having a real conversation with the person you pledged to love for the rest of your life! A friend used to tell me that human beings are polygamous by nature, and it is society that has forced them into monogamy, which is why the natural tendency is towards polygamy. My point is, if you do not want to be faithful to one person, then skip the marriage farce, or if you have outgrown your partner, have the courage to end the relationship and move on. That would be more honest than staying married and playing the field at the same time!
I feel out of place when I see this kind of activity around me and it has seriously made me wonder if what I understand by “fidelity” or “loyalty” has flown out of the window nowadays?
It is so easy to pretend you are talking to a friend or a colleague, while in reality the person concerned is having a gala online affair, fooling his or her spouse. Another syndrome, which I will name the “bored wife” syndrome, is a particular set of women, who have been married for quite some years and have become bored with their husbands. These women take incessant photographs of themselves, often scantily clad and then troll the online world in search of some kind of sexual excitement. To them, flirting and then having sex chats with somebody else's husband means nothing wrong. And they always manage to find a man, who cries, “my wife does not understand me” and then engage in all kinds of lewd acts with this man, never sparing a thought to their respective spouses. Like I always say, women need to respect their own sex first before screaming “women’s Lib”. I think that these people genuinely believe they are doing nothing wrong by cheating on their partners with their online lovers. They exchange nude or semi-nude photos and if feasible, meet their lovers and take it one step ahead.
Working couples do not find the time to be with each other, but can spend hours chatting with virtual strangers online and that is what they prefer to having a real conversation with the person you pledged to love for the rest of your life! A friend used to tell me that human beings are polygamous by nature, and it is society that has forced them into monogamy, which is why the natural tendency is towards polygamy. My point is, if you do not want to be faithful to one person, then skip the marriage farce, or if you have outgrown your partner, have the courage to end the relationship and move on. That would be more honest than staying married and playing the field at the same time!
I feel out of place when I see this kind of activity around me and it has seriously made me wonder if what I understand by “fidelity” or “loyalty” has flown out of the window nowadays?
