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Wednesday, 27 July 2016

A Tribute to my Upline – Part I

Let me tell you a story today. A story about a woman much  before her times. Sova Rani Das was born in 1916 in Dhaka, Bangladesh. Born into a family of eleven brothers and sisters, she was the third eldest. Her father was a village schoolmaster and mother a homemaker. Sova’s family was plunged into poverty when her father suddenly passed away and thereafter it was a struggle for the young widow and her children to survive. The two older daughters were married and settled by then and helped out when they could. However, it was still tough. Sova was an exceptionally brilliant and talented young lady. Yet she had no arrogance and was the epitome of humility.

A mischieveous streak added to the dimensions of her personality and she would often lead her younger siblings into all sorts of naughty escapades. At the same time, she was diligent in completing all household chores and often would take up the slack of one of her siblings’ chores. Sova passed out of school with distinction and innumerable prizes and she should have studied further but for the fact that there were no funds to send her to college.

In those days, daughters were married off as early as possible and Sova’s eldest sister brought a proposal for her and her two closest sisters to consider. The guy in question was a widower with a young son, living in Yangon, working for the Burmese Government. Sova’s sisters both turned this proposal down flat, as they turned up their noses at marrying an older man with a child, who was bald and short too.

Sova on the other hand said that since she was not as beautiful as her sisters, she did not mind accepting this proposal. So, the marriage was fixed. Sova Rani Das became Sova Bose when she married Bijoy Kumar Bose. From day one, Mr. Bose told her that he would accept her as his wife, only after she became a mother to his son.  Saying this he sailed for Burma giving Sova the responsibility  of following him with his son in tow. Sova took Bijoy’s dictum to heart and devoted herself to becoming a good mother for the five year old.

The first step for that, was to rescue the boy, Deb Kumar Bose from the clutches of one of Bijoy’s uncles who had been using Debu as a boy servant in his household. Sova at first took the direct approach and went to visit her uncle in law. When she asked to take her son with her to Yangon, the whole family turned her down, saying that she would drown him on the way over, as she was his stepmother and not his mother.

Sova left the house dejected and sat on a rock to decide what to do next. Opposite to the uncle’s house was an ashram headed by Gauri Devi, a holy lady in Dhaka. Gauri Devi was sitting on the porch with her disciples when she noticed the young lady looking sad and sitting on a rock. She asked one of her disciples who the girl was. Everyone knew everyone’s business in that neighborhood and the disciple told her the story of how Sova wanted to take her son, but was not being allowed to by her in-laws. Gauri Devi sent the disciple to call Sova to her. When Sova came, she gave Sova some prashad and said, “Your wishes will be fulfilled, child!” and blessed her.

Mystically, soon after, another of Bijoy’s uncles who was at loggerheads with the one harboring Debu, came forward to help Sova. He got the tickets for a ship sailing to Yangon and arranged for a tonga. Then, he told Sova that Debu came out early every morning to empty the chamberpots and that was their only chance to grab him. Sova, braver than most people, agreed to this daring plan. And sure enough, the next day, she was waiting on a tonga for Debu to come out. At about 5:30 am, the small limping boy came out with a chamberpot which he could hardly carry. Sova did not waste  a minute but got down, ran to her son, snatched him up in her arms and dashed back to the tonga. As fate would have it, two of her sisters-in-law spotted what was happening and came out to grab Debu back, shouting obscenities at Sova.

The tongawallah though was an expert one and he set off for the docks, leaving the evil sisters behind. Sova reached the ship without further problems, and set sail for Burma to a new life with her husband and son….


To be Continued..

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